Simplify church work by using the internet. For a couple years I have been using Fiverr.com personally and professionally for a couple years and it is freaking AWESOME. The way it works is this, figure out what kind of job that is wanted done (virtually anything can be done on). Go to Fiverr.com and search for someone to do that task. Hire them, give them the details, wait for the work to be done. Here is a short list of work I have hired freelance workers to do for me:
Web site analysis
Graphic art work (a lot of this)
Not every job has been a home run. But, for $5 I can afford do overs.
Check out the video below where I demonstrate how to use Fiverr.com.
Please post your comments and questions.
You Can’t Teach an Old Dog New Tricks? Yes you can..
Written by Eric Haselhorst
Without insulting serious addiction, there is good cause to believe that some addictions are not addictions, rather habits.
For years I was a saltaholic. Added salt to everything from steak to french-fries to salad was very normal for me. I mean, who doesn’t add salt to french-fries? People with high blood pressure or pre-hypertension that’s who… Yep, at the ripe age of 37 the signs hypertension began to show up. Hypertension runs in my family as I discovered so it was a matter of time that I would have to be treated for it in some fashion.
But at 37! Surely I could change what I was doing to avoid prescription meds. Thus, it was time to break bad habits.
First, how does a habit work? For every habit there is a cue, a reward, and a routine. The cue sets off a series of behaviors that ultimately looks like this. A mother makes a vow to not eat out to help the family budget. But what happens? On the way home, like most days, she drives by McDonalds. She is a bit stressed and the kids have lost their minds. Plus, it is supper time. The cue, wigged out kids. The routine? Hit the drive through, drop $30 and head home. An hour later, regrets having ate out and wrecked her budget again.
For me and salt the cue was…eating food. The routine, setting at the table, organizing my plate and grabbing the salt shaker. The reward, the flavor and using the salt shaker.
How do we break these habits? Obviously some habits are easier to break than others. In the case of the stressed out mother, she could simply take a different route home to avoid the site of the golden arches or other fast food joints. In addition, she could keep bags of crackers in the car and pass them around to the kids. The kids may still act goofy but the crackers may quiet them down a little on the way home.
In my case the habit was a bit harder to break. No matter where I go I gotta eat and salt is everywhere. I figured out my triggers, routine and reward. Eating and using copious amounts of salt as soon as I sat down. The reward was the taste and physical act of adding the salt. To break this habit loop I did a couple things. 1, quit putting a salt shaker in on the table or moving one away if it was within easy reach when dining out. 2, I bought Mrs. Dash, not the same thing I know but it does add flavor to food and it gave the satisfaction (aka reward) of shaking something on my food.
Over time my craving for salt disappeared. Plus I quit using Mrs. Dash as that reward was no longer a neccessary. As it turned out, staying off high blood pressure meds became the reward and that keeps me off salt to this day. Side note, my pallet is very sensitive to salt now. There are some foods I avoid all together now due to being too salty.
From these examples we can see that in fact we can teach old dogs new tricks. Even when we are the old dog.
In the next entry in our series we will explore how to instill new habits. Often we know what we need to do but do not have the tools to move forward. For another even more succinct version to learn how to break habits, check out Charles Duhigg’s video where he explains how he broke a cookie habit and lost 12 pounds. See it here, watch the video now
I got home and I don't remember how - what I learned
Written by Eric Haselhorst
Part 1 in a Series
I can recall at least four times I have said “I will stop by the store on my way home for lunch”, only to end up in my drive way thinking, “Crud, I wanted to stop by the store on my way home”. What happened? At 12 PM my lunch routine started and my brain went into auto pilot. I grabbed my keys, got into my car, turned on music, I left the parking lot, turned on Central, slowed down for the rough crossing at Comanche street, waited for the light at Soule Street, missed the red at 6th and turned on Hart then my driveway.
What I am describing is a habit. According to researcher Wendy Wood, she monitored people’s daily behavior and found that 45% of the decisions we make are actually habits. They’re not really decisions and from that, we know that every habit happens at a kind of border: It’s a decision we made at some point but then stopped making and continued acting on. Read the full story in Time Magazine
In this series I will explore how we can change Catholic habits (not the kind you get by taking vows) and use them to make the Church a place where friends and neighbors fall in love with Jesus.
Our brains are wired up to crave habits. It takes less mental muster to accomplish routine tasks. That is why rote prayers are so wonderful in times of stress. At the loss of a loved one or after a car accident we do not have to think about the words when we need Jesus, Mary or one of the Saints. With our friends and family we can say a Rosary and be united. Our brains, not to mention our hearts, can divert our energy to other tasks versus thinking about what to say. To read more about how our brains work with habits read, The Power Of Habit by Charles Duhigg.
In my story about the failed attempt at an errand I wanted to do over lunch, I told my experience about one of hundreds of habits that you and I have on any given day. The route we take to work, the foods we eat…or don’t eat, where we set at church, programs we watch, money we spend or save. Hundreds of little decisions we chose at one time and act upon without even thinking.
Imagine the power of people and faith we could unlock by helping people change their habits. In this series I will cover:
How to break a habit
How to add a habit
Institutional Habits – Church habits
These articles will be brief and packed with links to more information for further study. The basics concepts will be out lined in an easy to ready format.
At the end of this series, you will have the knowledge to not only change your parish, but also your life.
Thanks so much for reading and share this with your friends. Leave comments in the in the comment box to start a great discussion.
Making a New Habit in 3 Steps
Written by Eric Haselhorst
In the last blog post I discussed and showed how to break a habit. Just in case it was missed, read it here. We discussed the habit loop which consists of a cue, reward, and a routine. Ultimately pattern of behaviors we do on auto pilot. Recall the story of breaking my salt habit.
Creating a habit is very much akin to breaking a habit. The difference is switching from an undesirable habit to a habit we want in our lives.
When I broke my salt habit that was the first step I took ensure I would stay of meds for high blood pressure. It was six years later I began adding routine exercise to my regimen. What initially kicked that off was a friend who asked me:
Mike -“Eric, have you heard of P90X”
Me - “No, what is it?”
Mike - “According to my buddy it is a major *** kicking but guarantees results in 90 days.”
Me - “Ummmm, Ok let’s do it”
I bet $100 most people start out what is thought to be a new habit this way. We sign up for a gym membership or open a special saving account for a vacation and in short order abandon the pursuit all together because we go about it all wrong.
To start my workout habit with Mike and Claire we unknowingly followed the habit loop.
The Cue: The three of would meet at 5:30 AM on week days at the National Guard Armory. I set out my workout cloths the night before to make it easier to show up. Another cue.
The Reward: My reward was I could have a beer each night I worked out in the morning. OK not very altruistic but your rewards will work for you and mine for me.
The Routine: Meet Mike and Claire and workout, have a beer only if I made the work out. 90 days later be in better health
This 90 day habit worked and has subsequently morphed into a five year long routine of exercise. The ultimate reward for all this work is I am still not on high blood pressure meds, I am in the best shape of my life, I have more energy than my peers and I sleep like a baby. Plus I ran my first ½ Marathon this year and rocked it. Is it easy? NO! There are days on a long run I wonder, “why am I out here, this is dumb”. But the reward makes it worth it.
Let’s review the habit loop again:
Decide the habit to be created.
1. Create the trigger or cue: What time will this habit occur? Who will you be with? Where will you be? What will you just have finished? What emotion will you be feeling? Only one of these cues are needed but more can be present.
2. What is the reward: What will you give yourself for the behavior? Do I actually enjoy the behavior?
3. Routine: When (cue) , I will (routine) because it provides me with (reward).
I mentioned at the beginning it is common for all of this to fail. Remember that new piece of exercise equipment that morphed into an expensive cloths hanger? Here are some strategies to avoid crashing your plan.
You may need to experiment with the reward. Since we are new to creating good habits we may not choose the right reward for our behavior. The reward needs to be lucrative enough that we want to get off the couch and exercise more than set on it with a bag of chips watching another rerun of Friends. It may take a bit of experimenting to get the reward right.
While creating this habit and even after the habit exists we may fall off the wagon so to speak. For example, we create a new prayer routine and life happens and you miss a week, or two days in a row etc. It would be very easy to say, “Forget it, this is not working”. Or the prayer routine does not go well for several days in a row and we throw in the towel.
Some of the best advice I have read when these circumstances, and they will happen, comes from fitness expert Tony Horton: “Stop beating yourself up if you can't sustain and/or maintain your "perfect" plan. It's okay to miss a workout once in1 a while. It doesn't mean that your process has gone to hell in a handcart. It doesn't mean you have to start over. Life happens. Priorities shift. So what? Big deal. Just start up where you left off.” Read the whole article here
With any new habit I have created I have followed this advice to the letter. And this is the hardest advice I have tried to follow. When I began running I would have four great runs in row, then the fifth run would totally bomb. Breathing was not right, had to take walking breaks, knees hurt, all on a route I ran two days before perfectly. The exact same time and route was a total fail! Why? Life happens. Then there would be days that for one reason or another I missed runs. Rather than whine about a bad or missed run I took great effort to brush it off and chalk it up to life happening and go out again.
That key ingredient of not beating myself up has kept me going each time I put on my shoes. For another resource to help you create any habit listen to Tony. Remember, this philosophy can be applied to ANY habit, not just fitness.
Thanks for reading and please leave your comments and questions. In the next blog post I will explain how companies, churches, and schools have habits. And we can take what we know and change our parishes for the better with new habits.
I go to McDonalds...for the wifi
Written by Eric Haselhorst
For the last few years I have made fast food joints the devil in my mind. Making these places out to be evil helps me stay out of them. No they are not really evil places it is only a Jedi mind trick I play on myself to stay healthy and off high blood pressure meds.
That being said, if I am traveling solo somewhere I end up in...McDonalds and yes eat there. My motivation is to get the free wifi. No matter where I go I can count on Micky D to free up my data plan. Plus I can whip out my laptop and work, serf, or anything else I want. I LOVE free wifi.
On my last work trip I had a bit of extra time time to kill so bellied up to a burger and wifi at the Garden City Golden Arches. As I sat there checking email and my Facebook status I wondered how this experience of free wifi and McDonalds would work as a metaphor for our Catholic Churches.
At first my mind wondered over to the Eucharist. My love/hate relationship with fast food could be akin to church/Eucharist. I love free wifi/avoid fast food. Then you have a number of people that love the Eucharist but don't like church.
That works but is not what is on my heart. There has to be more to this than that simple analogy.
Then I asked "what is our Catholic Parishes wifi?" What do we offer people that is so irresistible people show up despite hesitation. McDonald's offers people like me that avoid the food...wifi.
I will tolerate the food in order to get what I really want which is unabated internet access. SCORE!
What is our wifi? What do we offer Catholics whose relationship to Church is similar to my relationship to fast food? We could say Jesus Christ in the Eucharist which for the committed Catholics would be true. But what about the group of Catholics that do not believe in the real presence? What about the group that had a bad experience in the Church? What about the group that identifies themselves as spiritual but not religious?
We have a great opportunity to think different about ministry and what it means to be Church. Our core work, providing the sacraments and catechesis, will not change. But everything in between those two points can. It can include but is not limited to how we communicate, small group opportunities, community, outreach, mission work, relationship and on and on.
For the Catholics and other Christians we want to evangelize too, it is no longer good enough to get them involved. What is better is to add value to their lives by showing we, as Jesus representatives, we care. We care so much we will listen and walk with them. Help them on a journey of meaning to our Lord by accepting them where they are and lovingly bring them to understanding.
This begins with answering, what is our wifi?
Please leave a comment and share this with your friends. Eric
Tips to avoid a dumb story and when to have a good story at Mass
Written by Eric Haselhorst
Your stewardship council recruited 2 couples and a single person to share their faith story with the parish. They took the outlines and other resources and have crafted a story for the parish. They dutifully give the story and it totally bombs! What the heck?
If this has not happened at your parish it will. But! There are ways to avoid a bad lay witness talk in both content, and delivery. Plus get more bang from the story buck.
Video #4 in the Power of Stories in Stewardship Renewal are designed to help a parish look good and the story teller look and sound great. We will also uncover ways to get the story deep into the parish for maximum affect.
Watch this video then share it with your friends
Tips for Kids and Teens sharing their stories during stewardship renewal
Written by Eric Haselhorst
Ever thought of using kids as lay witnesses? We should for several reasons:
It gives teens (especially) a meaningful way to contribute to the parish
Often times children are not jaded by life and have an innocent way of speaking about Jesus
Their enthusiasm can be infection
Get the kids...get the parents
Kids are darn cute
Really though, a good portion of our parish isn't old enough to vote but they do have a story to tell. We need to hear how Jesus helps these people at the stage of life they are in. From exams and sports teams to the death of relative, divorce....you name it our young people have something to share.
In the final video in our series titled "The Power of Stories in Stewardship Renewal", learn how to have kids and teens share a faith story of stewardship through a live interview process and a traditional story.
How to over come..."I'm not a good Catholic" syndrome
Written by Eric Haselhorst
For well intentioned ministers in parishes or stewardship council ministers, the easiest part of the lay witness process is identifying candidates. The hard part is getting them to yes.
This happened just this year to me. My priest invited my a married couple who are friends of mine. My buddy called me and asked me what this lay witness thing is all about and followed up promptly with. "Eric, I'm not the holiest Catholic and I don't think I have much to share. My wife has more to share than I do". Subsequently they declined the invitation.
This is a very common reply. We see gifts that are all stewardship in the people we worship with. The problem is these same people cannot see them or place little value on them. Aaaaaahhhhhh!. This is so frustrating!
Video 3 in this series is designed to help you overcome the "I'm not holy enough" syndrome. Plus, I mention a couple resources to help you help your candidates write a story. This episode is content rich and designed to help you get people to yes.
Click the links below for resources for writing a story:
I walk through home shows and different events and I make eye contact with a salesman of sort. It is the kind of eye contact where the polite side of me says, "OK I'll listen to the spiel and be on my way". When said salesman is doe a normal reply I might give is "Thanks, that is interesting, I'll call you", or "Let me think about it and I'll get back to you". Translation: "Not only no but heck no am I calling you, I only listened to be polite".
This is a common experience when inviting lay witnesses to share their faith story with the parish. We are at home minding our own business and we get the call for the pitch: "Blah blah at our stewardship renewal". Us: "wow thanks we are honored you asked, let me talk to my husband and I'll get back to you". Translation: "Thanks for the invite church person, but I am not going to mention this to my husband and will forget you called in two seconds".
I may be exaggerating a little but I am closer to the truth than we would like to admit. The trouble we have recruiting lay witnesses is we don't ask well. Our questions are vague, language too big, and often we don't consider where the other person is spiritually. This is a recipe for disaster we repeat over and over in our parishes. It is time to start over.
Video #2 in our Series, "The Power of Stories in Stewardship Renewal", is designed to give practical steps to help our friends and neighbors say yes to an invitation to share their story. Plus, give helpful tips to ask as well.
When you are done watching, leave a comment of your experience that went well...or not so much.
Thanks for watching, Eric
How does a piranha live for 30 years?
Written by Eric Haselhorst
I remember at mission when I was kid. The priest was from the U.S. but had been serving people from Venezuela or some remote place in South America. I do not recall his name but recall very well his story of the piranha down to the accent he used when he said that word. He related the way a piranha devours it's pray to the way sin can consume us. What is interesting about this story is that....IT WAS OVER 30 Years ago I heard it.
That is the power people visiting with people can have.
In stewardship renewal, a part of that systematic effort is to have lay witnesses share their story of stewardship with the parish. The problem with lay witnesses is that it is a monumental pain the...yeah... to get our parishioners to give a talk. Much less a good one.
To help you create a parish where friends and neighbors can fall in love with Jesus I created a 5 part video series titled, The Power of Stories in Stewardship Renewal. People sharing faith stories with people can be very powerful. Think about it, when we make almost any decision from the purchase of a car or where is the best restaurant we ask our friends. We check Amazon reviews, Yelp and other places to see what others experience with this and that. Then we make our decision to buy, believe, or verify what is happening in our own lives.
A lay witness provides a similar experience for the people in the pews. "Jesus showed me the way when...", "I met my wife at the church social on...", "Adoration made a difference in my life because...".
Our stories share real experience by real people. This helps the rest of us grasp the awesome power of our Lord. But we don't tell stories leaving so many disconnected from Jesus. This video series is designed to help you bring those faith stories to the parish in simple easy to understand methods. Plus, you will learn how to ask, get people to yes, and help them create an amazing story designed to help people fall in love with Jesus.