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Honoring our priests

Father Tighe: an instrument of hope and healing

Editor’s Note: Although the Year for Priests concludes in June, the SKR will continue to print submissions. How has a priest influenced your life in a positive way? Send your story to: Priest Stories, Southwest Kansas Register, 910 Central, P.O. Box 137, Dodge City, Kan. 67801 or email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

By HATTIE STEIN
Special to the Register

Many years ago when I was attending St. Mary of the Plains High School I met a young priest fresh from Ireland who would prove to be a life-saving priest in the many years to come.
Father Dermot Tighe was chaplain at St. Anthony Hospital.  We boarder girls at SMOP would walk to town (most of the time) and stop in to see Father Tighe.  He was young, filled with laughter and jokes, and always made us feel so important and special.
Through the years we reconnected at diocesan events, which would be catching-up time with the latest events.  Again, laughter, jokes, and wisdom he always shared.

In the 70s, Father Tighe became our pastor at St. Andrew in Wright.  Needless to say, he was loved by most and it was such a delight to again reconnect with him and share my family and faith with a long time friend.  By this time I had married my high school sweetheart from Wright and we had three young children in a young viable church community.  My husband, Ken, was active in the Knights of Columbus and our world centered on church, family, and the farming community.
At this time, who would have thought that anything negative could happen?
It was life on the plains in a safe community; What more could one ask for?
In October of 1979, Father Tighe was away from the parish and no one seemed to know the extent of his absence.  I didn’t question his absence, but just went on with life as it was, hopeful that he would return soon. October turned into November, and finally in December of 1979, Father Tighe returned for the Christmas holiday.  The Sunday of his return was a sermon that I will never forget and one that was the beginning of a lifesaving journey to come.    
He began the sermon with telling us he had been to “the Guest House,” which was a treatment center for priests to treat his alcoholism.  As I sat in the pew hearing these words, I was thinking, “No way is he an alcoholic; he didn’t drink that much,” and “If he is an alcoholic, what about my drinking?”  I was stunned and shocked, but on the other side of the coin, my respect for his courage and honestly was augmented to a new level.  It didn’t take long for me to “forget” about my own drinking and I went on as before with my life as it was.
Father Tighe went back to “the guest house” and finished his treatment after Christmas and returned to our parish -- I believe in January of 1980.  
Within the month the next significant “light turning on” day happened. I was in our parish center where I was helping to prepare a dinner for an event with the Knights of Columbus.  By this time I rarely did anything or went anywhere without bringing my favorite beverage, Miller Lite beer.  My thoughts were that if you just drank beer, you couldn’t be an alcoholic, so I drank only beer.  
As I was cleaning carrots and celery for the relish plate, Father Tighe came in and hopped upon the counter top to sit and watch us prepare the dinner.  He saw that I was drinking beer and asked me, “Hattie, how much beer do you drink?”  I answered, “I don’t know how much I drink but I do know that I drink most every day.” My theory was if you count your drinks or beer then you must be an alcoholic, so I didn’t count.  Father Tighe responded, “If you ever want to talk about your drinking, give me a call.”   That stuck in my head and again I thought, “I may drink most every day but I am NOT an alcoholic.”
Never did he judge me, criticize me, nor belittle me in anyway.  He did not preach to me about my drinking.  Instead he would drop subtle hints, encouragement, and wisdom that I couldn’t get out of my head.  As my drinking increased, Father Tighe’s wisdom haunted me. As I tried to prove him wrong, things got worse.  My anger at God, self, and the world increased significantly.
On June 9, 1980 my day started out good with many good intentions and plans. I was off from work  at the Fort Dodge Soldiers Home and I was going to get the laundry done, clean house, run errands to get ready for harvest, and enjoy the kids.  I put the first load of laundry in and thought, “I will enjoy one beer while the clothes wash and then will do all the other tasks.”  This was my intent and my goal, but that was not what happened.  
Each event to follow was a turning point in my life.  The ONE beer that I was going to drink turned into a case of beer.  The next thing I recall is that a dear friend and fellow parishioner that had been in Alanon for a while stopped by to share a bowl of fresh strawberries that she had grown in her garden.  I remember being embarrassed of all the beer cans on my kitchen table, and although she didn’t stay long those were the most powerful strawberries I have ever received.  
Later she told me that as she left that day, she prayed for my family and me, for she also knew what it was like living with the disease of alcoholism.  The following two hours were hours of “hell”.  During that “hell,” the words of Father Tighe spoke in my head: “If you ever want to talk about your drinking, call me.”  I went to the phone and made the most difficult call of my life.  Father Tighe was receptive and set a time. Ken took me up to Father’s when he came home from work.  I remember Father talking about alcoholism and I wanted to cover my ears, but I did listen and agreed to go with him to the next Alcoholics Anonymous meeting “to see” if I was alcoholic.
I went home and fixed a “Big Orange,” what we called a mixed drink (bourbon and water) and declared that to be my last drink.  
That decision I made with the encouragement of Father Tighe and the undying love and support of my husband and family not only saved my life, my family, and my faith, but also has allowed me to nurture and guide others through the recovery process. By the grace of God and support of my family and friends, on June 10, 2010 I celebrated my 30th year of sobriety.  I am a grateful recovering alcoholic.
Thank you, Father Tighe, for carrying the message of recovery to my family and me.  I will be eternally grateful to you for allowing God to use you as an instrument of His peace, which gave me hope instead of despair, to relearn to love and be loved, where there was darkness He gave light, and through your direction I relearned to forgive and accept forgiveness.  

Hattie Stein, who works out of an office at Catholic Social Service in Dodge City, is a National Certified Alcohol Counselor, Certified Alcohol/Drug Counselor, and a National Advanced Certified Relapse Prevention Specialist. She has worked for the diocese for five years, and in addiction counseling for about 24.


 

Past Issues

Dec. 9, 2018

Nov. 25, 2018

Nov. 11, 2018

Oct. 28, 2018

Oct. 14, 2018

Sept. 16, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: 2018 Golf Classic; student athletes; physically challenged; Leonard Stegman; Lesson in forgiveness; Sending us on a mission

Sept. 2, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Priest crisis; Scandal; Opioid addictions; Seeds of Suicide; Leightons; St. Anne; Vincke; seminarians; Dominican Sisters; Stewardship Conference; Dead Sea Scrolls; PSR programs; Roe V. Wade

 

August 12, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Prayer and Action; Totus Tuus; Janee Bernal; Diana Ramirez; Heidy Ramirez; Bishop Gilmore honored for 20 years ministry; suicide; contraception and abortion; Dead Sea Scrolls; Humanae Vitae; certification in youth ministry; Chuck Weber; Cathedral rectory chapel; Sister Viola Heichelbech; Adam Urban

July 15, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Immigration Protest/Rally; Faith and Light Fiesta; Seeing the Dead Sea Scrolls; Corpus Christi procession; Prayers for priests; Sisters turn 100; Michael Brungardt; Gerald Vincke; Massacre in San Salvador; Action for Alex 

 

June 3, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Parish Pray for Priestly Vocations; Appeal reaches $10 million; Gangs; Seminarians; Pam Willis; Why I like being a priest; Happy Father's Day; Patricia Lujan; Tyler and Rachel Bennett; Adoption Protection Act.

May 20, 2018
KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Track meet; Beloved Sinners; Benjamin Martin retires; Smiles; Future of Fortune Telling; Hoisington mission; DofI; Getting Equipped; Spring Social; First Communion; Confirmation
KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Track meet; Beloved Sinners; Benjamin Martin retires; Smiles; Future of Fortune Telling; Hoisington mission; DofI; Getting Equipped; Spring Social; First Communion; Confirmation

May 6, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Archbishop Romero; Seeing, Touching, Tasting; Exhortation; Father Patrick Conroy; Happy Mother's Day; A child on your doorstep; Vibrant Ministries Grant; From the heart of a young father; Love Gives Life; Roman Holiday; Smartphone; retirement
Fossil Hunting

 

April 15, 2018

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Easter Vigil; Angelica Village; Colorado woman; The art of anger; Cimarron Couple; Staats; Adoption; 

Father Ultan Murphy anniversary; Coughlan; Spiritual Advisor to Hoodlums; Woman of Courage; Oration contest; Darcy Feist  

 

April 1, 2018

 

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Defending Adoption; Led by the Spirit; Knights; ABC Pregnancy Center;
Memorial of Mary; Homeless; Relics; Down syndrome abortion; Chrism Mass

 

March 18, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: SKYAC; Aleksandr Men; Fasting for Priestly Vocations; Uganda; School for deaf; Rannah Evetts; Oberle; Rachel and Doug Trombley; Oscar Romero; Paul VI; DACA

 

 

March 4, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Fasting for priestly vocations; Father Juan; Fasting and prayer;
Quest Weekend 2018; DACA; With God, anything is possible; Homelessness in our communities; Rhubarb, Kansas;
What's the point of fasting; Rite of Election; same-sex couples

 

Feb. 18, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Catholic Schools Week; Rachel Doll; Ellinwood; Great Bend; Garden City; Ness City; Dodge City; Sister Rita Schwarzenberger; Nigeria; Bishop Hermes; Fasting for Priestly Vocations; World Day for Consecrated Life; 50th Anniversary St. Dominic School; What will life be like in 50 years?

 

 

Feb. 4, 2018

 

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: March for Life; Tracy and Ross Smith; Adoption; Vibrant Ministries; Faith and Light;
Pro-Life; Mortal sin to discard elderly; DACA; Abortion; Dreamers; Human Trafficking

 

Jan. 21, 2018

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Louise Korbe; Anne Frank; Miep Gies; Home Heat; Father Solanus

 

Jan. 7, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Good news and kingdom living; dreamers; Sister Teresa Orozco; Infant Adoption; Elderly; a moral conundrum; seminarian; feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe

 

Dec. 17, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Celebrate Christmas 'unplugged'; Msgr. Matthew Smith; Klan; Catholic Charities Annual Appeal; Fr. Larry Rosebaugh; A Guadalupe Encounter; Laci and Joe Salazar; A Christmas Wish; Adoption; Confession; Advent; EWTN; Christmas Blues; Tilma; Pittsburgh; PSR

 

Dec. 3, 2017

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: 2017 NCYC; Wheel of Balance; Marita Rother; Stanley Rother; slavery; trafficking; Windthorst water damage; martyred priests; confession; reconciliation; How to go to confession; recipe for codfish cakes; Catholic schools; appeal

 

Nov. 19, 2017

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Saints; Father Kola; Black Elk; Giving Tuesday; velvet Elvis; a Slice of Time; Dani Sandoval; Mexican Village; Father Tim Hickey; New faces at chancery; priests share thoughts on confession; Wheel of Balance

 

Nov. 5, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Matrimony Anniversary Mass, 2017; Riebel; Faith and Light; Scripture Day; Sex in the Bible; Quilt, Mexican Village Story; Finance; Fatima pilgrimage; Fowler church window renovation; Medicare; Crazy Glue


Oct. 15, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Father Francis Jordan; Sister Renee Kirmer; Father Rother beatified; religious liberty; RCIA Kansas; V Encuentro; Bishop Weisenburger; Daughters of Isabella; Bishop Gerber Science Center


Oct. 1, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: De Colores; Rebein; Dreamer; Pies; Kellner; Code Quilts; Sister Crucita; Feezor; Formed.org; Sin and pain

 

 Sept. 17, 2017

 

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Sister Lucy Fidelis; Underground Railroad; Sister Irene Hartman; DACA; new priests; teachers; Volunteer of the Year; Golf Classic; St. Francis Xavier; St. Nicholas Parish Center, Kinsley; seminarians; Knights Lite; Stewardship Day 2017

Sept. 3, 2017

Aug. 13, 2017

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Coronado Cross; Masada; Moody Gardens; Elders; Rother; undocumented children; cages; year of mercy; Kumi; Hollywood makeup artist; New Mexico; refugee women.

July 16, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Summer camp; tithing and almsgiving; Bill Baalmann; Nathan Schaller; Jubilarian Sisters; Sister Hortencia Rodriguez; Sister Petrona Stockemer; Sister Denise Sevart; Convocation of Catholic Leaders; Mother talks about her son entering seminary; Arcoiris; Youth group travels to Colorado Springs; Major Phillip Roth

June 11, 2017 (Updated)

Ordination; Mark Brantley; Jacob Schneider; Father's Day; Thanks, Dad!; Appeal; Sister Mary Martin Weaver; Bishop Maralit; Budget; Trafficked women; Deacon Michael Brungardt; Dead Sea Scrolls; softball; Father Urban retirement; Sister Kravec retirement; Father Mazouch retirement; Authentic Joy; Pris Climate Accord; Jack Schramm; Pieta.

May 28, 2017 (Updated)

 

Grateful Hearts; MSFS Provincial; Reddy; Reif; Opossum; Dead Sea Scrolls; Our Lady of Fatima; Jorge Herrera, Jr.; Cursillo; Kough; First Communion; Confirmation

May 14, 2017

Esteban Hernandez; citizen; Lilly Ann Rein, Amberly Jimenez, Mother's Day; peacock; Quattrocchi; President Kennedy; Teen Moms; Junior High Youth Rally; Encounter With God's Call; granny/nanny; seniors' contributions; tornado anniversary; harvest; healthcare; Mr. Brown; Store-bought teeth; Louis and Zelie Martin; Father John Sullivan; Irish priest whose prayers could heal; Mexican beauty queen; Esmaralda Gonzalez; religious life

April 30, 2017

   KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Easter Vigil; bully; TEC; Father Marvin Reif; Bet'sie; What makes a hero?; St. Mary of the Plains; tornado

Easter, 2017

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: SKYAC; Honorable courtship; footsteps of migrants; CHRISM Mass 2017; honoring priests; Encuentro Cross blessed; Daughters of Isabella State Convention; Fatima pilgrim statue; Mary Sharon Moore interview; Senate advances pro-life measures; love must be at the core of family life; Father John Forkuoh's car story; Confirmations; Sisters of Concordia; CNN hero Father Khalil Jaar

March 26, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: From the heart; kidney; Rother; Friar Carmelo; Schnauzer; Lauren Seachris; Lauren's Treat; fire; Guatemala; immigration; Lenten Regulations 1888; Hot Cross Buns; budget; Trump; Forkuoh; Seiwert; South Sudan; hot ashes

March 12, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Refugees; immigrants; Gilbert Herrman; When you give alms'; Lent; Call to Continuing Conversion, Rite of Election; Charell and Jeremy Owings; adoption; Our Growing Church; Sisters of St. Joseph of Concordia; water; creation; Sudan; Darlow Lampe

Feb 26, 2017

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Night to shine; Immigration; immigrants; Knights of Columbus; Pete Gomez; this foreign mission; Creole; Robin Doll; Eagle Scout; Quest

Feb 12, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Catholic Schools Week; March for Life; Pro-life; Executive Order; Secular Franciscan Order; teachers; Down Syndrome; Eagle Scout; Bronze Pelican

Jan. 29, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Thank you, religious; SEEK 2017; homeless man to priest; Fourth Sunday; Secret Service to Sacred Heart; Dr. Gerard Brungardt; Martin Luther King; 110 year old nun; Toddler miracle; Letter from undocumented immigrant; health care; immigration

Jan. 15, 2017

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Mary helps us share; Tighe donates home to Birthright; Pro-life billboard; Theobald Hattrup; Helen and Steve Eck; Pearl Harbor; Reigning Grace

Dec. 18, 2017

KEYWORDS: Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe, 2016; Pope Francis Christmas schedule; 2016 high school youth rally; Aerospace engineer; Father Stanley Rother; Radio station; Dying girl's letter; Scout nominations; 12 days of Christmas

Dec. 4, 2016

KEYWORDS: Vocations Day; Pope Advent advice; Ex-prostitute; Spearville mission; Pilgrims v. Zombies; Face of God; Mission bazaar; Ness City fall festival; Rural health care; Archbishop Gomez; Bishops congratulate Trump

Nov. 20, 2016

Nov. 6, 2016

Oct. 23, 2016

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Sept. 25, 2016


Sept. 11, 2016

 
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July 10, 2016

June 12, 2016

May 29, 2016

May 8, 2016


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March 13, 2016

Feb. 28, 2016

 

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