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Sept. 22, 2019

IN THIS ISSUE: Fiesta de Colores 2019; Billings Model of NFP; Fifth Annual Golf Classic; Stewardship Conference; Dominican Sisters Ten Year Anniversary; Young Adult Director visits colleges; Internet and Online Porn exploits children; Caring for Caregivers; Leading up to the Pan-Amazon Synod 

See the caption on Page 1 above. Apologies to Father Anselm Eke, MSP, pastor of St. John the Evangelist Parish! His name should have been included in the original caption. He can be seen riding in the back of the truck at top.

 

Sept. 8, 2019

IN THIS ISSUE: Bishop asks for your input; Catholic Charities opens new office in Garden City; Somali refugees thankful for the kindness of strangers; Teachers learn how to encounter trauma; California Confession Bill; Dominican Sisters' Anniversaries; Natural Family Planning helps to discover serious health issues; Diocese Budget for 2019-2020; Largest seminary class in 30 years; St. Mary of the Plains honors Vietnam War heroes

 

 

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In Persona Christi Capitis

By Father Juan Salas

Assistant Director, Priestly Vocations

As we approach November, which is the Month of Priestly Vocation for the Catholic Diocese of Dodge City, we will reflect upon the three missionary realities (tria munera) of the priest as acting in persona Christi Capitis (in the person of Christ the Head). The priest, acting in the name of Christ himself, exercises the threefold office of teaching, sanctifying and governing “by virtue of Christ’s authority; not as a member of the community, but speaking to it in the name of Christ” (ccc 875). Which it is to say that when the priest, in communion with the church, teaches, sanctifies and governs, it is the same Christ who performs those actions.

The three short articles will be an opportunity to gratefully reflect on the priestly mission of the priest through whom Christ continues to be truly present and active within the Church. “In order to shepherd the People of God and to increase its numbers without cease, Christ the Lord set up in his Church a variety of offices which aim at the good of the whole body” (ccc 874) and invested the ones whom he called; “Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men,” (Mt 4:19) with the duty to sanctify (Munus Sanctificandi), teach (Munus Docendi) and shepherd (Munus Regendi) the mysrical body of Christ: the church.

We will use this opportunity to shortly reflect on each one of the three offices (tria munera) on three separate articles.

The Priest - Munus Sanctificandi - The duty to sanctify

The duty of the priest to sanctify is born from God alone. “Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God Almighty” (Rev 4:8) He “is light and in him is no darkness at all” (1 Jn 1:5). God’s holiness comes to the world in the person of Jesus Christ. Christ bestowed that holiness on his priests who at the same time contribute to make the people of God a holy nation. Christ gives his priest this mission and faculty (“the sacred power”) to act in persona Christi Capitis (ccc 875) to make the faithful holy: to sanctify it. The action of sanctifying the people of God follows the very sanctifying action received by the priest himself: “And for their sake I consecrated myself, that they also may be consecrated in truth. I do not pray for these only, but also for those who believe in me through their word” (Jn 17:19-20).

The action of sanctifying a person could be understood as to put him or her in contact with God so this person becomes one with Him. The priest sanctifies the people of God through prayer and work: by the proclamation of the Word of God and in a very particular and special manner through the Sacraments” (cf. ccc 893). Each sacramental celebration draws the person closer to God so both the priest and the faithful may attain eternal life. Thus, it is Christ himself who makes us holy and the priest continues the mission of the One sent by the Father through the “word” and the sacraments.

All the sacraments receive the sanctifying strength of the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ. Likewise, they proclaim the everlasting mercy of God. It is for this reason that when the faithful  receives God’s mercy through the sacrament of penance; or when receives the body and blood of Jesus Christ through the sacrament of holy Eucharist; then at that moment the one receiving it is being sanctified by the sanctifying office of the priest.

Through this priestly office, the love of God pours down on his people. It is a great gift from God that the priest represents. “The priesthood is the love of the heart of Jesus,” as Saint John Vianney would often say. This saint is a great example of the sanctifying office of the priest.  His humble spirit and self-sacrificial soul allowed him to administer the sacraments, especially the sacrament of penance and holy Eucharist, with a true-shepherd’s heart: “A good shepherd, a pastor after God’s hear, is the greatest treasure which the good Lord can grant to a parish” (St John Vianney). He understood that God’s sanctifying action lays on the altar and the confessional. He often would say that “all good works, taken together, do not equal the sacrifice of the Mass.” Saint John Vianney experienced the Love of God through the Eucharist celebration. He did it so much that he knew that the soul and heart of the one receiving our Lord need to be ready: thus, he spend much of his ministry in the confessional.

God has always provided for his people. He has earnestly sought to make his people holy for “we know that in everything God works for good with those who love him, who are called according to his purpose” (Rom 8:28). The priesthood in its sanctifying function points out to that reality in which Jesus Christ continues to set aside for himself those receiving the proclamation of the world and the sacraments. The hearts and lives of the faithful are transformed because of the experience of God’s merciful love.  Through the word and the sacraments of Jesus Christ the priest continues building up the “holy nation of God” (cf 1 Pt 2:9).

Saint John Vianney, pray for us.

Internet video series shines God’s light on special kids

(See Chris's videos by clicking here.)

By Dave Myers

Southwest Kansas Catholic

Hidden in the billions of bytes of information flowing from the Internet every micro-second is a video series dedicated to the celebration of the uniqueness of all human life. 

“Hey, everyone. Welcome to SBSK, the Youtube channel where you’ll meet friends who live with many different conditions.

“While watching these videos you’ll notice one thing. Although humans are incredibly diverse, we all have so much in common. So, without further hesitation, let’s meet today’s friend.”

These are the words of Chris Ulmer, a 20-something special education teacher who has devoted himself to travelling the globe and talking with people who are facing severe physical and/or intellectual disabilities.

He not only tells their story, but, like a modern-day Mr. Rogers, he makes clear that those he interviews are special, that they are worthy of friendship and respect.

The two- to 20-minute videos are not always easy to watch. At least not at first.

Avery is a teenage girl with cerebral palsy.

“What’s the most difficult thing about being you?” Chris asks.

Avery thinks for a moment, smiles wide and responds, “I don’t have any [difficulties].”

“A lot of people say she’s an angel, and I actually believe that,” her father says.

Another smile from his daughter who is squeezed up next to him. “I never say a mean thing,” she says.

“Why not?” Chris asks from off camera.

“Because, I’m a nice person!”

“I think a misconception is that she can’t talk, or talks very little,” Avery’s sister says as she takes a place next to her. “When she first meets them, she’s pretty shy. But then you get sassy once you get to know them, don’t you?”

“Yeah!”

“Do you sometimes feel shy?” Chris asks.

“Yeah.”

“Do you feel shy because you want them to like you?”

“Yeah,” she responds.

“Are you scared they may not like you?”

After a moment’s thought, she responds, “No” and laughs.

Ulmer’s vocation has taken him all over the world, meeting with people of all levels of disability. Many are non-verbal, and communicate with a look, movement or sound. Yet it’s impossible not to see their affection for the young man, who makes clear that he is there not just to put a face on these special people, but to be their friend.

And it is by way of that relationship that you can clearly see God at work.  

“I was a special education teacher and had the same seven students for three years,” he said in a video question and answer interview. “In our third year, we started a blog. I wanted the community to learn about my students to better understand them, include them and have them be a part of our life in southeast Florida.”

For six months, the young teacher filmed lessons and interviewed his students.

“I thought that would be it. It wasn’t my goal to become a vlogger [video logger]. After six months we had 100,000 followers. People started emailing me and asking if I could come and interview them.”

He decided to publish a book: Special Books by Special Kids (SBSK), but after being turned down by 50 publishers, Ulmer decided to devote full time to his video series.

Today he has filmed more than 1,000 videos--190 on Youtube, and more than 600 on their original Facebook channel. He has travelled across the globe, and has been featured on an Australian version of 60-Minutes. 

One common question he asks his interviewees (or their parent), is, How do you want people to act around you?

The same answer comes again and again: “Just smile. Say hi.”

The philosophy behind the video series is that everyone has the ability to change someone’s life. It may be the life of the person he’s interviewing, but it will most certainly be those who are fortunate enough to tune in.

To see his videos, go to Youtube.com and type Chris Ulmer in the search box. On Facebook, type in Special Books by Special Kids.

 

Pope Francis says that in healthcare

‘We are responsible for the most vulnerable’

By Hannah Brockhaus

Catholic News Agency

Vatican City - When it comes to healthcare and using our resources wisely, we have a responsibility to protect and take care of the most vulnerable in society, especially the elderly, Pope Francis told members of the Italian bishops’ conference.

“To optimize resources means to use them in an ethical and responsible manner and not to penalize the most fragile,” he said.

“It is necessary to be vigilant, especially when patients are elderly with a heavily compromised health, if they are suffering from serious and costly diseases for their care or are particularly difficult, such as psychiatric patients,” he continued.

“Together with lights, though, there are some shadows that threaten to exacerbate the experience of our sick brothers and sisters,” he said. The most important thing is that the dignity of the sick person is always at the center of all healthcare, because when it is not, he said, the attitudes caused can lead people “to take advantage of the misfortunes of others. And this is very serious!”

Francis condemned, for example, business models of healthcare which, “instead of optimizing the available resources,” instead consider most people to be a type of “human waste.” When money is the guiding principle of policies in healthcare and administrative decisions, there can be a temptation to lose the protections to the right to healthcare, such as that “enshrined in the Italian Constitution,” he said.

Rather, “the growing health poverty among the poorest segments of the population, due precisely to the difficulty of access to care,” he said, should “not leave anyone indifferent and multiply the efforts of all because the rights of the most vulnerable are protected.”

Pope Francis praised the many health institutions in Italy founded on Christian principles, expressing his appreciation for the good that they have accomplished and encouraging them to continue to do even more to help the poor and vulnerable.

“In the present context, where the answer to the question of the most fragile health is becoming more difficult, do not even hesitate to rethink your works of charity to offer a sign of God’s mercy to the poor that, with confidence and hope, knock on the doors of your structures,” he said. One of St. John Paul II’s goals for the World Day of the Sick, “in addition to promoting the culture of life,” Francis said, was also to involve dioceses, Christian communities, religious, and families in understanding the importance of pastoral healthcare.

There are many patients in hospitals, of course, but there are many more people in their homes and frequently alone, he pointed out.

“I hope they are visited frequently, so they do not feel excluded from the community and they can experience, because of the proximity of one who meets them, the presence of Christ which passes now in the midst of the sick in body and spirit.”

He praised the advancements in scientific research which have found cures for some diseases, or eradicated them altogether, while noting that we can’t forget also the more rare and neglected diseases, which are not always “given due attention, with the risk of giving rise to further suffering,” he said. Quoting from his message for this year’s World Day of the Sick, the Pope said, “In the first place is the inviolable dignity of every human person from the moment of conception until its last breath.”

“We praise the Lord for the many health professionals with the knowledge and belief that they live their work as a mission, ministers of life, and participate in the effusive love of God the Creator,” he said. “Their hands touch every day the suffering flesh of Christ, and this is a great honor and a serious responsibility.”

“Likewise, we welcome the presence of many volunteers who, with generosity and competence, are working to alleviate and humanize the long and difficult days of so many sick and lonely elderly people, especially the poor and needy.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Diocese celebrates the gift of matrimony

 Nearly 50 couples, their friends and family, came to the Cathedral of Our Lady of Guadalupe Oct. 21 to celebrate the gift of matrimony at the annual Matrimony Anniversary Mass, celebrated by the Most Rev. John B. Brungardt. His homily is below. See the names of the couples at bottom.

La homilía del obispo John Brungardt está abajo.

 Welcome to all as we celebrate God’s wonderful gift of Matrimony:  One man and one woman who freely give themselves to each other, in love and fertility, until death do they part.

In July, we hired a new director of our Matrimony, Family Life, and Natural Family Planning Office.  Janeé Bernal is our new director.  She has many years of experience at Newman University.  Thanks to your generosity and sacrifice in our Vibrant Ministries: Uniting our Church appeal, we have Janeé to assist the diocese in this important part of God’s plan for our lives.

Matrimony, Family Life, and Natural Family Planning Office:  why such a long title?  Each part is so important, so I decided not to abbreviate.  Let’s look at each aspect on this Matrimony Anniversary Celebration:

Matrimony

The new Matrimony Rite (The Order of Celebrating Matrimony – Ritual Del Matrimonio) has recently been approved by the US bishops and confirmed by the Holy See.  It uses the word Matrimony.  Unlike the word marriage, which society defines any way it wishes, the word Matrimony is a covenant from the Lord.  From  the Consent in the Rite:

Since it is your intention to enter the covenant of Holy Matrimony, …

In this covenant, this holy promise, a man and a woman gives their lives to each other, in love and openness to children, until death do they part.  This is what the Lord sacrificed for us, as prophesied in Isaiah:  “He gives his life as an offering for sin.

Family Life

Like the Holy Family, Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, this couple becomes co-creators with God in bringing forth children.  From the Rite:

Are you prepared to accept children lovingly from God and to bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?

I have said many times, that the most important responsibility of parents to their children is not to put food in their stomachs, not to put clothes on their backs, not to put a roof over their heads:  all these pass away.  The most important responsibility of parents is to raise their children in the Catholic faith, to teach them that God loves them more than they can ask or imagine.  In this way, the children will deepen their love, knowledge, and service of the Lord, their neighbor, and themselves.  Jesus said in our Gospel that he “did not come to be served but to serve,” thus we are called to teach this to our children.

Natural Family Planning.

The Joy of Love experienced by families is also the joy of the Church” is the opening sentence of Pope Francis’ Apostolic Exhortation on the family.  Our Holy Father writes: “Through their union in love, the couple experiences the beauty of fatherhood and motherhood, and shares plans, trials, expectations and concerns; they learn care for one another and mutual forgiveness” (88).

Openness to children is part of God’s beautiful plan for the man and woman who received the great gift of Matrimony.  Pope Francis continues: “We need to return to the message of the Encyclical Humanae Vitae of Blessed [now Saint!] Pope Paul VI (50th anniversary of his prophetic teaching!), which highlights the need to respect the dignity of the person in morally assessing methods of regulating birth” (82).  Natural Family Planning is a way that couples can grow in their communication with one another, discern biological signs of God’s gift of fertility, and cooperate with the Lord’s plan in their lives.  Investigate Natural Family Planning by speaking with Janeé, your pastor or other parish staff members.

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Matrimony, Family Life, and Natural Family Planning: 

Married couples and your families, Jesus loves you immensely!  Trust in Him as you “confidently approach the throne of grace to receive mercy and to find grace for timely help” (Hebrews).

 

 

Bienvenidos a todos a celebrar el maravilloso regalo de Dios del Matrimonio: Un hombre y una mujer que libremente se entregan el uno al otro, en amor y fertilidad, hasta que la muerte los separe.

En julio, contratamos a una nueva directora de la Oficina de Matrimonio, Vida Familiar y Planificación Familiar Natural. Janeé Bernal es nuestra nueva directora. Tiene muchos años de experiencia en la Universidad Newman. Gracias a su generosidad y sacrificio en nuestra Petición de los Ministerios Vibrantes: Uniendo a Nuestra Iglesia, tenemos a Janeé para asistir a la diócesis en esta parte importante del plan de Dios para nuestras vidas.

La Oficina de Matrimonio, Vida Familiar y Planificación Familiar Natural: ¿por qué un título tan largo? Cada parte es tan importante, decidimos no abreviar. Veamos cada aspecto en esta Celebración de Aniversario de Matrimonios:

Matrimonio

El nuevo Rito de Matrimonio (El Orden de Celebrar el Matrimonio - Ritual del Matrimonio) recientemente ha sido aprobado por los Obispos de los Estados Unidos y confirmado por la Santa Sede (Roma). Usa la palabra Matrimonio. No como la palabra casamiento, que la sociedad define de cualquier forma que desea, la palabra Matrimonio es una alianza del Señor. Del Consentimiento en el Rito:

Ya que su intención es  entrar en la alianza del Santo Matrimonio …

En esta alianza, esta santa promesa, un hombre y una mujer entregan sus vidas uno al otro, en amor y apertura a tener hijos, hasta que la muerte los separe. Esto es lo que el Señor sacrificó por nosotros, como fue profetizado en Isaías: “él ofreció su vida como sacrificio por el pecado.

Vida Familiar

Como la Sagrada Familia, Jesús, María y José, esta pareja se convierte en co-creadores con Dios en dar a luz hijos. Del Rito:

¿Están dispuestos a recibir de Dios responsable y amorosamente hijos y a educarlos según la ley de Cristo y de su Iglesia ?

Muchas veces he dicho, que la responsabilidad más importante de padres y madres a sus hijos no es darles de comer, no es vestirlos, no es darles techo: todo esto pasa. La responsabilidad más importantes de padres y madres es criar a sus hijos en la fe católica, enseñarles que Dios los ama más de lo que puedan pedir o imaginar. De esta manera, los hijos profundizarán su amor, conocimiento y servicio del Señor, su prójimo y ellos mismos. Jesús dice en nuestro Evangelio que él “no vino a ser servido sino a servir,” por eso somos llamados a enseñar ésto a nuestros niños.

Planificación Familiar Natural

La alegría del amor que se vive en las familias es también el júbilo de la Iglesia” es la primera declaración en la Exhortación Apostólica sobre la familia del Papa Francisco. Nuestro Santo Padre escribe: “En su unión de amor los esposos experimentan la belleza de la paternidad y la maternidad; comparten proyectos y fatigas, deseos y aficiones; aprenden a cuidarse el uno al otro y a perdonarse mutuamente” (88).

Apertura a tener hijos es parte del hermoso plan de Dios para el hombre y la mujer que recibieron el gran regalo del Matrimonio. El Papa Francisco continua:  “Es preciso redescubrir el mensaje de la Encíclica Humanae vitae de Beato [¡ahora Santo!] Pablo VI, (¡50 aniversario de su enseñanza profética!), que hace hincapié en la necesidad de respetar la dignidad de la persona en la valoración moral de los métodos de regulación de la natalidad” (82).  Planificación Familiar Natural es un modo que las parejas pueden crecer en su comunicación el uno con el otro, para discernir las señales biológicas del regalo de la fertifidad de Dios y cooperar con el plan del Señor en sus vidas. Investiguen la Planificación Familiar Natural hablando con Janeé, su párroco o otros miembros del personal de la parroquia.

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Matrimonio, Vida Familiar y Planificación Familiar Natural: 

Parejas casadas y sus familias, Jesús los ama inmensamente! Confíen en Él y

acerquémonos con plena confianza a la sede de la gracia, a fin de obtener misericordia y hallar la gracia del auxilio oportuno” (Hebreos5:16).

 

HONOREES

The listing below is of all those who registered for the Oct. 21 Matrimony Anniversary Mass. If we missed anyone, or any information is incorrect, contact Dave at 620.227.1519, or This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

 

St. Joseph Parish, ASHLAND

Gerald and Pat Krier, 63

Christ the King Parish, DEERFIELD

Richard and Connie Braun, 50

Cathedral of Our Lady of Guadalupe Parish,

DODGE CITY

Norma and Bernard Brown, 66

Adan and Gloria Cisneros, 10

Gerardo and Carmen Molinar, 50

Leon and Maureen Flax, 51

Joseph and Rebecca Gleason, 40

Robert and Marlene Littrell, 40

Juan and Zelma Lozano, 17

Miguel and Maria Martinez, 15

Rosa and Alejandro Peña, 15

Russell and Sandra Schartz, 61

Leroy and Donna Schawe, 55

Maurice and Shirley Stein, 55

Frank and Virginia Sumaya, 47

St. Joseph Parish, Ellinwood

Jerome and Eileen Huslig, 52

St. Dominic Parish, GARDEN CITY

Charles and Janice Nunn, 50

Prince of Peace Parish, GREAT BEND

Don and Loretta Kuhlman, 55

Donald and Lilly Penka, 55

Chuck and Mary Skolaut, 45

St. John the Evangelist Parish, HOISINGTON

Hutch and Sandy Moshier, 55

St. Mary Parish, HOLCOMB

Salvador and Sharon Aldana, 35

St. Stanislaus Parish, INGALLS

Farrel and Mary Ellen Bleumer

St. Lawrence Parish, JETMORE

Ron and Theresa Bach, 40

Jerry and Mary Whipple, 52

St. Nicholas Parish, KINSLEY

Norman and Pauline Herrmann, 57

Charles and Clara Schmitt, 69

St. Michael Parish, LA CROSSE

Benny and Ardis Viegra, 50

St. Anthony Parish, LAKIN

Harold and Twila Smith, 61

Sacred Heart of Jesus Parish, LARNED

Leonardo and Sonia Mabugat, 50

Holy Rosary Parish, Medicine Lodge

Ernest and Ellen Young, 54

Sacred Heart Parish, Ness City

Sergio and Jaqueline Rios, 25

St. Joseph Parish, OFFERLE

Vic and Julie Miller, 40

St. Ann Parish, OLMITZ

Terry and JoAnne Riese, 40

Daniel and Stephanie Schneider, 5

St. Alphonsus Parish, Satanta

Encarnacion, Jr. and Connie Maturey, 49

St. Joseph Parish, SCOTT CITY

Harl Dean and Patricia Ann Burdick, 55

William and Carolyn Simpson, 40

St. John the Baptist Parish, Spearville

Gilbert and Sandy Ackerman, 50

Ervin and Connie Burkhart, 50

Melvin and Patricia Habiger, 52

Steve and Julie Knoeber, 50

Dwaine and Louise Lampe, 60

John and Berna Mae Stegman, 59

David and Rosanne Tasset, 50

Mary, Queen of Peace Parish, ULYSSES

Primitivo and Maria Isabel Corona, 35

St. Andrew Parish, WRIGHT

Kenneth and Hattie Stein, 55

Larry and Mary Tenbrink, 60

Blaine and Rita Venters, 58

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Protecting God’s Children

We must be aware of the signs of ‘grooming’

    Editor’s Note: The following is one of a series of articles provided in response to the deeply troubling news regarding priestly abuse of children. The Most Rev. John Brungardt, Bishop of the Catholic Diocese of Dodge City, is presenting the series in hopes of providing information, education, and ministry in regards to this important topic. The following comes from VIRTUS, a program which offers periodic on-line lessons. It is part of the Protecting God’s Children program and is a requirement for all those working or volunteering for the Catholic Diocese of Dodge City.

 

By Paul Ashton, Psy.D., D.Min.

National Catholic Services

“Teach me your way, O Lord, and lead me on a level path because of my enemies. Do not give me up to the will of my adversaries, for false witnesses have risen against me, and they are breathing out violence.”

—Psalm 27:11-12

 As some point, we all have been “duped.” Afterwards, we are likely left with raw feelings of bitterness, anger, and resentment—not to mention embarrassment. For the purposes of protecting children, it is important to remember that pedophiles and ephebophiles specialize in their own particular way of duping society. In order to get closer to a potential victim, they engage in the process referred to as “grooming.” When preying upon young people, they use these grooming techniques to gain control of a child, and therefore cooperation.

The term “grooming” refers to the way in which predators try to mold, fashion, build up, and set up victims and their families in the way that best suits their needs in order to molest the child, all the while appearing innocent of any crime. Sometimes predators can spend weeks, months, or even years grooming their victims using calculating, manipulative, and deceptive methods all the while being very patient as they seek to gain control over their victims.

We need to be careful to note that perpetrators groom families and caregivers as well. They are clever at deception and seem to know when and where they are needed most in a family situation. Through anticipating the needs of families, sexual abusers are quick to align themselves to the family of a possible victim. They use many of the same grooming skills on families as they do with children.

Offering to baby-sit, pick children up from school, help with school projects, fixing needed repairs in the household, etc., are just some of the things that predators do to gain the trust of parents and families.

There are basically three types of grooming:

    Physical

    Psychological

    Community

Physical grooming involves touch. Starting with innocent pats on the back or arm, an acceptable form of touching a younger person, the predator progresses the touch to hugging, tickling, and wrestling.

This conditions the child to increasing levels of physical contact. The perpetrator uses subtle, innocent appearing moves to touch a child. All the while the child feels that nothing is wrong. They might even interpret the touch as like one given from a loving parent; however, each and every touch of the predator is sexual in nature.

Over time the predator uses his or her skills to make the child receptive to their touch all the while progressing to sexual contact.

Psychological grooming comes in many forms for both the child and their family. Offenders spend time with their victims; they show children attention and use any possible method of communication that allows the targets to feel they are on the perpetrator’s level and that the offender understands them. This is a key factor in this process.

Perpetrators become peers to their victims—peers with power and thus, control. Special gifts, treats, breaking of rules, foods, trips, and attention allow for a deep connection to be forged by the perpetrator.

When the child pulls away, the perpetrator shows signs of rejection and unhappiness, and the child feels guilt and confusion. At other times perpetrators resort to physical threats to their family, pets, or friends if the child wants to discontinue this “special relationship.” 

Psychological grooming, playing games with the innocence of a child’s mind, preying upon the guilt of parents who feel good that another adult is showing their child attention—all of these tactics are part of psychological grooming.

Community grooming is the way in which a molester creates a controlled environment around himself or herself. The perpetrator projects an image (false and misleading, of course) to adults, that they are responsible and caring citizens. They mimic the behavior of good people to get closer to children so that they might molest them. When an allegation comes forward, it is easily explained away by other adults who have been groomed by the perpetrator to think that they would never harm a child.

When employing these grooming tactics with a child, secrecy is the key. They manipulate the child to keep the abuse they are experiencing secret. This secrecy binds the child to the molester.  Perpetrators often employ the following tactics to keep secrets:

 

Bribery — “I’ll let you stay up late and watch TV if you let me do this.”

 

Threats of Harm to the Child — “You are really going to get it if you tell anyone.”

 

Threats of Harm to the Offender — “If you tell, I’ll go to jail.”

 

Withdrawal of Affection — “I won’t like you anymore if you tell.”

 

Implications about the Child’s Family — “This would really hurt your mother if she knew.”

 

Taking Advantage of the Child’s Innocence — “It’s OK, everybody does this,” or “if you tell anyone, I’ll just say you were lying.”

 

One of the first rules that a family should establish is “no secrets!” Mothers and fathers should never ask their children to keep a secret from anyone. By forbidding secrets, parents create an atmosphere where a child learns that no adult can force them to keep something secret or hidden.

Yes, we all have been duped at some point in our lives. As adults, we know how difficult it is to read the motives of many people who interact with us. Consider how much more difficult is it for a child to distinguish this behavior.

At Youth Rally, students learn that

Every life is precious

 By ADAM URBAN

    Editor’s Note: Adam is the Director of the Office of Youth Ministry for the Catholic Diocese of Dodge City, and the primary organizer of the Middle School Youth Rally.

When Luke Maxwell, keynote speaker at the Oct. 7 Middle School Youth Rally in Dodge City, was 16, he crashed his family’s full-size van into an oncoming vehicle in an attempt to kill himself. 

Instead of cutting short his young life, he was led on a miraculous journey, the story of which he shared with 300 middle school students, catechists, Directors of Religious Education, and parents gathered together for the rally, held at Dodge City High School. 

Sadly, it’s a timely topic. Multiple communities in the diocese have been stricken with teen suicides and rising rates of teen depression and anxiety. 

Maxwell is the founder of “U Can’t Be Erased” ministry out of San Diego, which is designed to “break the stigma of teen depression and stop the epidemic of suicide in our country today, especially among Catholic youth.”

Maxwell gave a powerful testimony and witness of healing and hope. He speaks to thousands of adults and young people all over the country about mental health and how to unlock their potential.

After miraculously living through his suicide attempt, Maxwell, a cradle Catholic born and reared near San Diego, was arrested for assault with a deadly weapon after seriously injuring another driver. He was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder.

Maxwell sought healing and made the decision to change his life. He has since made it his mission to speak about how to heal the mind, body, and soul — replacing despair with hope. His practical testimony talks about sharing one’s struggles, taking care of the body, and prayer for the soul. He has even become close friends with the man whom he injured in the crash.

The day-long rally also included time to focus on community, prayer, and amidst it all, fun.

“Wichita Adores Ministry” provided music, dancing, sound and lights, and the environment was truly electric.  The day concluded with Mass and adoration of the Blessed Sacrament.

Do you know someone who missed out on the day? Don’t miss next year’s rally on Sunday, October 13, 2019 in Dodge City!        

 

 

Past Issues

August 4, 2019

IN THIS ISSUE: Prayer and ActionAction for AlexTotus TuusCamp Cristo ReyFather Schawe in GuatemalaSt. Francis Cabrini FraternityEmPowering those facing challenges; Pro-Life group brings help, hope to borderSeminarians' Summer MinistriesHow Catholics Pray

July 7, 2019

June 9, 2019

May 19, 2019

May 5, 2019

April 21, 2019

Easter Sunday

April 7, 2019

March 24, 2019

March 10, 2019

Feb. 24, 2019

Feb. 10, 2019

Jan. 27, 2019

Jan. 13, 2019

Dec. 23, 2018

Dec. 9, 2018

Nov. 25, 2018

Nov. 11, 2018

Oct. 28, 2018

Oct. 14, 2018

Sept. 16, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: 2018 Golf Classic; student athletes; physically challenged; Leonard Stegman; Lesson in forgiveness; Sending us on a mission

Sept. 2, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Priest crisis; Scandal; Opioid addictions; Seeds of Suicide; Leightons; St. Anne; Vincke; seminarians; Dominican Sisters; Stewardship Conference; Dead Sea Scrolls; PSR programs; Roe V. Wade

 

August 12, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Prayer and Action; Totus Tuus; Janee Bernal; Diana Ramirez; Heidy Ramirez; Bishop Gilmore honored for 20 years ministry; suicide; contraception and abortion; Dead Sea Scrolls; Humanae Vitae; certification in youth ministry; Chuck Weber; Cathedral rectory chapel; Sister Viola Heichelbech; Adam Urban

July 15, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Immigration Protest/Rally; Faith and Light Fiesta; Seeing the Dead Sea Scrolls; Corpus Christi procession; Prayers for priests; Sisters turn 100; Michael Brungardt; Gerald Vincke; Massacre in San Salvador; Action for Alex 

 

June 3, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Parish Pray for Priestly Vocations; Appeal reaches $10 million; Gangs; Seminarians; Pam Willis; Why I like being a priest; Happy Father's Day; Patricia Lujan; Tyler and Rachel Bennett; Adoption Protection Act.

May 20, 2018
KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Track meet; Beloved Sinners; Benjamin Martin retires; Smiles; Future of Fortune Telling; Hoisington mission; DofI; Getting Equipped; Spring Social; First Communion; Confirmation
KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Track meet; Beloved Sinners; Benjamin Martin retires; Smiles; Future of Fortune Telling; Hoisington mission; DofI; Getting Equipped; Spring Social; First Communion; Confirmation

May 6, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Archbishop Romero; Seeing, Touching, Tasting; Exhortation; Father Patrick Conroy; Happy Mother's Day; A child on your doorstep; Vibrant Ministries Grant; From the heart of a young father; Love Gives Life; Roman Holiday; Smartphone; retirement
Fossil Hunting

 

April 15, 2018

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Easter Vigil; Angelica Village; Colorado woman; The art of anger; Cimarron Couple; Staats; Adoption; 

Father Ultan Murphy anniversary; Coughlan; Spiritual Advisor to Hoodlums; Woman of Courage; Oration contest; Darcy Feist  

 

April 1, 2018

 

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Defending Adoption; Led by the Spirit; Knights; ABC Pregnancy Center;
Memorial of Mary; Homeless; Relics; Down syndrome abortion; Chrism Mass

 

March 18, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: SKYAC; Aleksandr Men; Fasting for Priestly Vocations; Uganda; School for deaf; Rannah Evetts; Oberle; Rachel and Doug Trombley; Oscar Romero; Paul VI; DACA

 

 

March 4, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Fasting for priestly vocations; Father Juan; Fasting and prayer;
Quest Weekend 2018; DACA; With God, anything is possible; Homelessness in our communities; Rhubarb, Kansas;
What's the point of fasting; Rite of Election; same-sex couples

 

Feb. 18, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Catholic Schools Week; Rachel Doll; Ellinwood; Great Bend; Garden City; Ness City; Dodge City; Sister Rita Schwarzenberger; Nigeria; Bishop Hermes; Fasting for Priestly Vocations; World Day for Consecrated Life; 50th Anniversary St. Dominic School; What will life be like in 50 years?

 

 

Feb. 4, 2018

 

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: March for Life; Tracy and Ross Smith; Adoption; Vibrant Ministries; Faith and Light;
Pro-Life; Mortal sin to discard elderly; DACA; Abortion; Dreamers; Human Trafficking

 

Jan. 21, 2018

 KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Louise Korbe; Anne Frank; Miep Gies; Home Heat; Father Solanus

 

Jan. 7, 2018

KEYWORDS, PHRASES: Good news and kingdom living; dreamers; Sister Teresa Orozco; Infant Adoption; Elderly; a moral conundrum; seminarian; feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe

 

 

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